Recently I had the privilege of sharing
with a group of homeschoolers about my experiences living and working
overseas. I appreciated their interest and the questions they posed.
Our time together passed quickly and could have easily extended
another hour or more. A brief interaction with the parent who
organized the session stands out to me because it hinted at something
that, despite all the positive aspects of homeschooling, troubles me
about some members of the homeschooling community.
As I was gathering my things to leave I
was talking with this mother—a very friendly, polite, and
intelligent woman—about my children's situation now that we are
back in the United States. I told her that my daughter currently
studies at one of our local public high schools and then commented
that she was thriving there and it seemed in fact to be a good
environment for her. This seemed to rather surprise this mother. We
didn't have time to discuss it further, but from my impression she
found it quite difficult to believe that someone could consider a
public school to be a good environment for their child.
I do not want to accuse this woman of
any particular bias, because we did not have time to really discuss
the issue. But her reaction hinted at something I have picked up at
times from other homeschooling families: the sense that homeschooling
is really the most godly and superior choice for teaching children.
Depending on the degree to which this philosophy is held, it may
express itself as a complete disdain for anyone who doesn't home
school, or it may be expressed more as pity for those who do not home
school due to either family constraints or other reasons. Admittedly,
not all homeschooling advocates actively demonstrate this philosophy
and those who truly disdain non-homeschoolers are probably a quite
small minority, but I think that the philosophy does pervade most
homeschooling families. They are so convinced of the benefits of
their method that they must perceive every other schooling option as
inferior in some degree. Perhaps this is only to be expected, given
the commitment and effort it takes to home school.
When our children were young, my wife
and I did not envision sending them to public school either. In fact
my wife often had quite critical things to say of our local public
school system. Now as our children are in or prepare to enter high
school, imagine our own surprise as we enroll them in the same public
school system which earlier we had viewed so critically. We are not
unaware of the weaknesses and drawbacks of doing so, but at the same
time we see our daughter thriving in her current school environment
as she has not thrived in the past several years of her education and
we look forward to launching our son into the same system (albeit to
a different high school) next fall.
Our children have spent most of their
educational lives either in small, Christian school contexts or
studying at home in a semi-homeschool environment (not a “true”
homeschool environment because we did not choose and implement the
curriculum ourselves, although our children did their study at home
under our supervision and with our assistance.) To the extent that
they had classmates, they were largely from the same or similar
cultural backgrounds as they. Although we lived in other cultures and
they had some interaction with these cultures, their key educational
environments were distinctly evangelical and American.
Now that one of them is in public
school (our son is finishing his middle school years in an on-line
virtual academy), she is for the first time in her life immersed
fully in a secular world. She is surrounded by people who are not
like her, people who do not share the same underlying values or
beliefs. She has made friends with people who are quite different in
their worldviews, not necessarily the people we would have chosen for
her had we been the ones making the choice. But we are not and at
age 15 we no longer should be, at least not in a directive sense. We
do converse with her about her friends and as she interacts with them
it has opened opportunities for conversation with her about many
issues. She is, for the first time, having to consider the meaning,
implication and impact of Christian faith in a decidedly
non-Christian context. The outcome is not certain, but my wife and I
are convinced that the process is worthwhile.
I see a trend among some evangelicals
in America, a trend to condemn the secular culture in which we live
and to respond to the increasing secularization by retreating and
withdrawing from it. Homeschooling can, in its more negative forms,
constitute a part of this trend. It seems that some families feel
that we can no longer engage with the culture and our best response
is to try to isolate ourselves and try to remain pure and unsullied.
I do not think this is a healthy response. Nor do I think it is a
realistic and workable response. At some point our lives must cross
those of others who are different from us, who do not think and act
and believe as we do. If we do not prepare our children for this
interaction when they are growing up, when we are most able to
influence and teach them, they will instead crash into it later in
life. I fear that children who grow up in an isolated conservative
Christian environment, even if they are “armed” with apologetic
skills to “defend” their faith, will find it difficult to deal
with a secular society. But deal with it they must at some point. For
this reason, among others that I will not go into here, I am glad
that my daughter is in public high school.
I am not opposed to homeschooling. It
may be the best option for some and it definitely has advantages. The
group I talked with recently were certainly polite, generally
engaging and interested in what I had to say. I don't know that the
average public school classroom would have been such a receptive
environment—though in fact I do not know because I have not had
that opportunity. What I would say to homeschool advocates is:
recognize that homeschooling is an option, not a mandate. It is not
more or less godly than placing our children in public schools, so do
not judge those of us who take that route. Recognize also that your
child will have to deal with a world in which the majority of people
around him or her will not share the same beliefs, values or
worldview and consider how you can foster a healthy ability to engage
and interact with people from that world. Let us not be guilty of
creating a Christian ghetto culture. Salt doesn't do much good if it
just sits in a salt shaker, no matter how comfortable and welcoming
that may be.
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